|“||When I got married, I didn't just get a husband; I got a whole freak show that set up their tent right across the street! And that would be fine—if they stayed there! But every day--every day—they dump a truckload of their insane family dreck into my lap! How would you like to sit through two people in their sixties, fighting over who invented the lawn? The lawn! And then the brother! "I live in an apartment. I don't even have a lawn; Raymond has a lawn!" But you can't blame them when you see who the mother is! She has this kind of sick hold on the both of them, and the father's about as disgusting a creature as God has ever dropped on this planet! So no wonder the kid writes stories! I should be writing stories—my life is a Gothic novel—and until you have lived in that house, with all of them in there with you day after day, week after week, year after friggin' year, you are in no position to judge me!||„|
|~ Debra screaming to her son's kindergarten teacher about the misery of her life|
Debra Barone is the tertiary antagonist of the hit comedy TV series Everybody Loves Raymond. She is played by Patricia Heaton.
While being a protagonist of the series and generally a good-hearted person Debra frequently exhibits unlikable characteristics. Debra is depicted as a spoiled, arrogant bully and a hypocrite most of the time yet hardly anyone calls her on it. In all seriousness Debra does have a great deal with which to put up. She has a huge house to manage, three children to take care of and a husband who actively avoids helping her. In addition she has to put up with her in-laws constantly barging in, making her life very difficult. Still, her misfortunes do not fully justify her attitude.
Growing up Debra was a very free spirited and promiscuous young woman. When she and Ray first met she was shown to be very affectionate, kind, understanding, mature and sweet. That all changed when she & Ray moved in across the street from Ray's parents, something she blames Ray for despite it being all her fault and Ray having discouraged the idea. Ironically it seems Marie's malign attitude has rubbed off on her. Near the flashbacks, Debra was like this way before they moved right across the street by Ray's Parents. She was bossy, abusive and always corrects him when she dated Ray.
She is usually yelling at her husband Ray due to his lazy, selfish and thoughtless attitude. In fact Debra has a habit of yelling at several people. This has caused even her children to recognize it as her trademark. Debra's antagonistic side is mostly brought out through her enmity with her mother in law Marie Barone who is always very unkind to her. Debra is a very bad cook & cleaner, the two things Marie is terrific at and as such Debra is constantly being criticized by Marie and her snobbish attitude. Debra is only known to be good at cooking three things: Fish, lemon chicken and braciole.
As mentioned above, Debra is quite hypocritical as she is guilty of many of the things she constantly complains Marie does. One prime example is of how she controls her husband with an iron fist, utilizing fear and physical abuse when he tries to take a stand. Debra is always insulting and picking on Ray for his short comings rather than trying to help him work through them. She is never sympathetic to him for his upbringing or his present relationship with his parents. Even though she never defends him from Marie's manipulation or Frank's narrow-mindedness she always expects complete cooperation and assistance from Ray when she is on the defense. Ray has deemed her a bully and Marie has noted how Debra has always felt herself superior to the Barones, both of which she simply dismisses.
Debra's most villainous act was when she agreed to be ready to leave for a formal function on time with the condition Ray would leave her behind if she was tardy. She was tardy and Ray did leave her behind, which caused her to seethe. When Ray returned home Debra told an apologetic Ray to wait for her upstairs. Ray waited upstairs for hours (too scared to go to sleep) while Debra fell asleep after watching TV in an act of revenge, accompanied by an evil little giggle. Even though this doesn't qualify as a MEH it is still the cruelest thing anyone in the series has done.
- Ray and Debra's relationship is similar to Doug and Carrie Heffernan on The King of Queens. Ray is Doug's best friend.
- Debra is really in love with Ray Barone.